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Meet The Fam

Meet The Fam

 

 

You find comfort since the mom knows you, the friends know you... But I guess you forgot that their loyalty is to HIM. Not you. Here's a secret... And dudes hate when I throw this out there... But I really don't care... I have sisters and nieces... this info is for you…

 

So, your worst enemy is yourself in this situation because you're there letting family members and friends boost you up by telling you "you are the ONE for him. He told me he really likes you. He talks about you all the time. He'll come around. I like you for him. You're BASICALLY his girlfriend. You're better than the other girl."

 

All of that motivates you for some reason because you think you're so "in with the love ones". So you're inspired by all of that family-friendly glitter and forget that this man still does not want a relationship with you.

 

And I know that you think that meeting the family and friends is a sign of progression into something more, and it is. Just not more to what you think it is. If he is still telling you that he does not want a relationship but is introducing you to the family and friends, that man is already settling down for now. You're not upgrading from friends with benefits to a relationship. You just upgrade to the "Chill and come over to eat and have sex, and it's cool that you know the family. So just in case I ever do want to settle down with you, and only you, you will be here waiting for me because you are extra hopeful now” arrangement.

 

Secret: he ALREADY SETTLED DOWN WITH THE WAY THINGS ARE GOING NOW. That's why he's not trying to upgrade to a relationship...

 

The thing is, you don't have to meet the family. If he asks you to meet them, you can always say no if you think it's going to lead you on. 

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Flaws

We all have them. BUT, they are all about perception. What I consider as a flaw may not be what someone else considers as a flaw. To me, a flaws is an imperfection or a fault in MY eyes. I consider my flaws to be things that I do not like about myself and things that I would like to change. 
So I have grown to understand myself and my own tendencies more and started to observe my preferences and also which tendencies and flaws I tend to look for in women. 
What I have realized is that I end up attracted to or bonding to women who don't like the same things about themselves that I don't like about myself. 
Shyness.
Anxiety.
Closed in.
Loner.

And this is because they are life me. They are working on what I'm working on. We relate. 
So this amazing question pops up in my head.... If I don't like certain things about myself, but I fall in love with those certain things in women... Are they really flaws??? Are they flaws if I'm in love with them?

it's like, I can love someone and embrace their flaws. But there flaws are just like mind... So why is it hard to embrace with them myself?

All I know is that not a single one of us is perfect. And that's one of the great things about life. We all have so many wonderful things to offer -- and, yet, we're not always so wonderful. 
So here are 4 steps for falling in love with your flaws: 
1. Decide if there's something you can do about it. If there is, work on them. 
2. Determine if you actually are going to do something about it. If not, why worry? If you are, GET TO IT TODAY.

3. Imagine it from a different point of view. 
Is it really that bad? Can you see the beauty of it? Are you disliking it because everyone else is or is it something that you truly believe is flawed?

4. Accept it it for exactly what it is. You're beautiful. Act like it. 
#IAmTheLoveOfMyLife

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Why should I forgive?

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Why should I forgive?

Forgiveness isn't a pill that makes everything better and you can't do it when you're not ready. If you're in pain, it's hard to see anything else but the pain and unfortunately, saying you forgive someone won't take the pain away. You have to get to the point where you choose healing and moving forward instead of pain. One day you'll realize you're stuck in one place while everything has moved on. Once you get to that point you can begin to consider forgiveness. Choosing Forgiveness is choosing freedom from the pain and the first place to start is by forgiving yourself. It's not easy, there is no time limit on when or why but when you're tired of carrying the burden of pain, you can start forgiving.

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What are small facts about psychology that can be learnt quick to apply in real life?

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What are small facts about psychology that can be learnt quick to apply in real life?

The way a person thinks about life determines their reality. 

In other words, thoughts must be heavily screened before releasing the thoughts to the world. 

Sharing your thoughts affect people no matter how hard you try not to. Thoughts promote "good" or "bad" actions. Words are powerful. 

The ability to access the brain is more important than knowing how to make money. 

Treat the mind like soil for a tree. Planting a tree in rich soil produces abundance. Same thing goes with an enriched mind. A rich mind filled with a wide perspective of life produces an abundant lifestyle.

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Why don't some guys try more if the girl rejects them?

"No means No - except when it means Yes." 

That's a tiresome game to play and it undermines the whole idea of respecting a woman's word.

Of course we know that sometimes some women say No when they mean Yes or Try Again.

For a man to not accept a No at face value from a woman that he does not know intimately, is for him to undermine the whole notion of explicit consent.

If you want something to happen between you now, you have to state it explicitly. In other words, apply "Yes means Yes".

The leading men in movies can read ladies' minds and charm their socks off because the scriptwriter decrees it with godlike power. If you want a relationship in real life, you're going to have to be explicit about it eventually. Real men don't read minds.

Yes means Yes.

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Forgiveness

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Forgiveness

In the end, when you hold on to the anger, you're hurting no one but yourself.  They go about living their lives as they wish, while your anger and resentment allows them to continue to ruin yours.  You in essence, have become the surrogate to all the pain, frustration and heartache that they once caused you and now, they don't need to do anything but sit back, enjoy their life and watch you be miserable.  It doesn't have to be that way; you can take that power away from them simply by forgiving them and letting it go.  I'm not saying you have to forget; don't forget...forgetting would erase the memory and in the memory is where you find the lesson.  But forgiving removes the weight of the past from your shoulders and allows you to move forward without them.  The past is what it is, you can't change it.  What you can do is learn from it and use that to make better decisions in the future.  I'll hurt... But over time, you'll find peace in knowing they no longer have that power over you and when you see them you can finally smile and say to yourself, "I'm finally free from you". #Forgiveness

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