Forgiveness isn't a pill that makes everything better and you can't do it when you're not ready. If you're in pain, it's hard to see anything else but the pain and unfortunately, saying you forgive someone won't take the pain away. You have to get to the point where you choose healing and moving forward instead of pain. One day you'll realize you're stuck in one place while everything has moved on. Once you get to that point you can begin to consider forgiveness. Choosing Forgiveness is choosing freedom from the pain and the first place to start is by forgiving yourself. It's not easy, there is no time limit on when or why but when you're tired of carrying the burden of pain, you can start forgiving.